LOS ANGELES, March 4, 2015 /PRNewswire/ -- The key to
having a successful marriage, getting your teenager to talk to you,
or stopping inevitable toddler tantrums may start from within
yourself. For centuries we have learned about the "Golden Rule,"
but when Kids in the House sat down with Roman Krznaric, an
international empathy expert who is working to combat the world's
empathy deficit, he shared an even bigger secret to unlocking
successful relationships: "The Platinum Rule."
"The Platinum Rule is to 'Do unto others as they would have you
do unto them'," explains Krznaric. He encourages people to
imagine how the other person is feeling and thinking and how they
would want you to respond to them.
The "Platinum Rule" is different than the "Golden Rule" in that
it teaches children to make an effort to understand the way other
people think and feel and to act accordingly, which is the key
element of empathy. The "Platinum Rule" helps children understand
what others are thinking and feeling and to treat them as they want
to be treated.
"Empathy is the demonstrative act of stepping into the shoes of
another person and understanding their feelings and perspectives,"
says Krznaric.
Krznaric explains that we can all learn the ability to be
empathic, and by doing so we will better understand one
another.
When you find yourself in a disagreement with your spouse,
friend, or child, Kznaric says, "By listening for those feelings
and needs, it actually reduces the tension and it makes all the
difference." You don't need to automatically agree with them,
but show them empathy by listening to their feelings and
perspective on the situation.
"Empathy is something that doesn't just make you good, it's good
for you too," says Krznaric. "The great power of empathy is that it
is the cornerstone of healthy relationships… without empathy, we
are emotionally tone deaf."
During the moments of conflict with others, Kznaric says that
looking at things from the point of view of the person who you are
in conflict with will help you find resolution. When someone shows
you empathy it is incredibly attractive and allows you to connect
with that person. Likewise, when you are empathic toward other
people they feel understood and are more likely to compromise and
communicate, which is the key to discerning a spouse's anger or
even curbing your child's tantrum.
Krznaric also explains that teaching children empathy involves
being a model of empathy for them as well.
"Don't tell your children to be more empathic, show them how to
do it," says Krznaric. "And children learn to do this from their
earliest infancy."
As you begin teaching kids empathy, Krznaric says, they will be
happier and they will form better relationships with those around
them.
In his book, Empathy: Why It Matters, and How to Get It,
Krznaric outlines habits of highly empathic people. He
encourages parents to start teaching empathy to their kids in order
to help them develop these habits early on in their lives.
Parents can practice empathic listening with their children
by listening out for their needs and feelings.
"I think empathy is ultimately what makes the human bonds that
make life worth living," says Krznaric. By creating those human
bonds and unlocking successful relationships, empathy can change
the world.
On Thursday, March 5th
at 12:30pm PST, Kids In The House
will be hosting a live Google Hangout where audience members can
ask Roman Krznaric their questions
on empathy. Click here to RSVP and start asking questions.
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